A e kan\u00eb grat\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb se burrat kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar besnike n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie?<\/p>\n
Pik\u00ebpamja se jan\u00eb kryesisht burrat ata q\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb sepse partneret e tyre humbasin interesin p\u00ebr seksin \u00ebsht\u00eb ndoshta e gabuar. Shkenca thot\u00eb se n\u00eb fakt jan\u00eb grat\u00eb ato q\u00eb m\u00ebrziten m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga monogamia sepse nuk ndihen t\u00eb plot\u00ebsuara n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit. Grat\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb shum\u00ebllojshm\u00ebrin\u00eb seksuale.<\/p>\n
Wednesday Martin, nj\u00eb antropologe dhe autore e \u201cUntrue\u201d, i referohet k\u00ebtij k\u00ebrkimi t\u00eb ri si \u201ckorrigjimi i madh\u201d. Martin intervistoi dhjet\u00ebra sociolog\u00eb, studiues t\u00eb seksit dhe antropolog\u00eb p\u00ebr librin e saj mbi tradhtin\u00eb fem\u00ebrore dhe thot\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar ideja se libidoja (d\u00ebshira seksuale) e grave \u00ebsht\u00eb e ul\u00ebt. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e gjall\u00eb dhe e etur p\u00ebr t\u2019u k\u00ebnaqur, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n
\u201cHulumtimi i ri po korrigjon idet\u00eb e rreme se grat\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb pak libido, se grat\u00eb jan\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm m\u00eb monogame dhe se \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr grat\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb lidhura vet\u00ebm me dik\u00eb,\u201d shpjegon ajo. \u201cGrat\u00eb nuk e p\u00eblqejn\u00eb m\u00eb pak seksin [se burrat] \u2013 por ato m\u00ebrziten nga e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb.\u201d<\/p>\n
Burrat mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb nivele m\u00eb t\u00eb larta t\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebs spontane, nd\u00ebrsa grat\u00eb kan\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjegjshme ose t\u00eb nxitur. \u00c7\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb kjo?<\/p>\n
\u201cD\u00ebshira spontane \u00ebsht\u00eb kur papritmas mendon: \u201cDo t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebja seks.\u201d T\u00eb vjen si uri apo etje,\u201d thot\u00eb Martin. \u201cD\u00ebshira e p\u00ebrgjegjshme ose e shkaktuar ndodh kur di\u00e7ka ju sugjeron iden\u00eb e seksit \u2013 jeni duke par\u00eb ose duke lexuar di\u00e7ka, ose takoni dik\u00eb \u2013 dhe ju ndiheni t\u00eb eksituar. P\u00ebr at\u00eb lloj d\u00ebshire, libidoja e grave \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq e fort\u00eb sa ajo e burrave.<\/p>\n
Arsyet pse grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb
\nMartin thot\u00eb se miti q\u00eb grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye emocionale, nd\u00ebrsa burrat p\u00ebr arsye seksuale po p\u00ebrmbyset gjithashtu. Ajo citon nj\u00eb studim nga Universiteti i Missouri-t mbi nj\u00eb grup grash q\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00ebn website-n Ashley Madison posa\u00e7\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr t\u00eb tradhtuar.<\/p>\n
\u201c[Ky hulumtim] korrigjon disa nga idet\u00eb tona m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapura p\u00ebr tradhtin\u00eb fem\u00ebrore: q\u00eb grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqura n\u00eb martesat e tyre; se ndryshe nga burrat, ato k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb lidhje emocionale, jo k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi seksuale.\u201d \u2013 shton Wednesday.<\/p>\n
\u201cGrat\u00eb e studiuara shkuan n\u00eb faqe, krijuan nj\u00eb profil, verifikuan kandidat\u00ebt, i takuan ata personalisht dhe i analizuan mir\u00eb. Ky ishte nj\u00eb proces shum\u00eb i q\u00ebllimsh\u00ebm. Ato donin t\u00eb gjenin partner\u00eb p\u00ebr seks. Ato than\u00eb se ishin n\u00eb martesa pa seks ose pa orgazma dhe thjesht donin at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk mund ta kishin n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.\u201d<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb hulumtim nga Dr. Marta Meana n\u00eb Universitetin e Nevada-s zbuloi se \u201cinstitucionalizimi\u201d n\u00eb nj\u00eb partneritet afatgjat\u00eb zbeh d\u00ebshir\u00ebn seksuale t\u00eb grave m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa t\u00eb burrave. Burrat q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks t\u00eb rregullt me partneret jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur seksualisht dhe me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e tyre, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, thot\u00eb ajo.<\/p>\n
\u201cTani, hulumtuesit e seksit jan\u00eb duke theksuar mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb thjesht kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr shum\u00ebllojshm\u00ebri dhe risi t\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs seksuale m\u00eb shum\u00eb se burrat,\u201d thot\u00eb Martin.<\/p>\n
Grat\u00eb p\u00ebrshtaten m\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm n\u00eb lidhjet monogame? Ndoshta jo. Biopsikologia Meredith Chivers n\u00eb Universitetin Queen\u2019s, Kanada dhe ekipi i saj ftuan burra dhe gra t\u00eb shihnin porno teksa kishin monitor\u00eb n\u00eb trup p\u00ebr t\u00eb matur reagimin e tyre fizik dhe qarkullimin e gjakut, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tregonte eksitimin seksual. Burrat heteroseksual\u00eb ishin kryesisht t\u00eb eksituar nga fotot e seksit heteroseksual dhe grat\u00eb q\u00eb kryenin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale me gra, por grat\u00eb heteroseksuale kishin nj\u00eb \u201cmenu eksitimi\u201d m\u00eb t\u00eb larmishme.<\/p>\n
\u201cTrupi i grave iu p\u00ebrgjigj burrave q\u00eb b\u00ebnin seks me burra, grave q\u00eb b\u00ebnin seks me gra, burrave dhe grave q\u00eb b\u00ebnin seks dhe imazheve t\u00eb nj\u00eb ereksioni. Tradicionalisht mendojm\u00eb se burat ndihen t\u00eb eksituar nga \u00e7do gj\u00eb dhe e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se trupi i nj\u00eb guaje i p\u00ebrgjigjet m\u00eb shum\u00eb stimujve seksual\u00eb,\u201d thot\u00eb Martin.<\/p>\n
Pra, a \u00e7on libidoja fem\u00ebrore gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb tradhti? Nuk ka pse, thekson antropologia. Jo n\u00ebse grat\u00eb mund t\u00eb flasin sinqerisht me partnerin mbi d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr shum\u00ebllojshm\u00ebri seksuale dhe aventura. Ajo thot\u00eb se kjo mund t\u00eb shmang\u00eb m\u00ebrzin\u00eb e pashmangshme q\u00eb pushton shum\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie afatgjata.<\/p>\n
\u201cImagjinoni sa m\u00eb t\u00eb mira do t\u00eb ishin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00ebse \u00e7iftet do t\u00eb kuptonin se kur nj\u00eb grua fillon t\u00eb ndihet e m\u00ebrzitur seksualisht, kjo nuk duhet t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptoj\u00eb fundin. Mendoni p\u00ebr martesat dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohen n\u00ebse grat\u00eb mund t\u00eb diskutojn\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e tyre p\u00ebr aventura seksuale dhe t\u00eb punojn\u00eb me partnerin e tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur zgjidhje q\u00eb i afrojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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