\u201cMagjia e shqiptar\u00ebve\u201d? Pse femrat e huaja vdesin pas meshkujve shqiptar\u00eb \u2013 realitet apo vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb mit?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb rrjetet sociale dhe n\u00eb bisedat e p\u00ebrditshme shpesh d\u00ebgjohet nj\u00eb pretendim interesant: se shum\u00eb gra t\u00eb huaja p\u00eblqejn\u00eb ose martohen me meshkuj shqiptar\u00eb. Por a \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo nj\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e konfirmuar, apo thjesht nj\u00eb perceptim i krijuar me kalimin e koh\u00ebs?<\/p>\n
Nga vjen ky perceptim?<\/p>\n
Ideja se \u201cfemrat e huaja i duan shqiptar\u00ebt\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur sidomos n\u00eb vitet e fundit p\u00ebr disa arsye:<\/p>\n
Migracioni i madh shqiptar n\u00eb Europ\u00eb dhe kontaktet m\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshta me kultura t\u00eb tjera<\/p>\n
Rrjetet sociale, ku shpesh shfaqen histori dashurie nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare<\/p>\n
Stereotipe kulturore, q\u00eb i p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb meshkujt shqiptar\u00eb si t\u00eb fort\u00eb, familjar\u00eb dhe mbrojt\u00ebs<\/p>\n
Megjithat\u00eb, sociolog\u00ebt thon\u00eb se kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rregull i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb kombinim i p\u00ebrvojave personale dhe imazhit kulturor.<\/p>\n
A ka v\u00ebrtet shum\u00eb martesa t\u00eb tilla?<\/p>\n
Statistikat n\u00eb disa vende t\u00eb Europ\u00ebs tregojn\u00eb se ka nj\u00eb num\u00ebr t\u00eb konsideruesh\u00ebm martesash mes shqiptar\u00ebve dhe grave t\u00eb huaja, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb vende ku jeton nj\u00eb diaspor\u00eb e madhe shqiptare si:<\/p>\n
Zvicra<\/p>\n
Gjermania<\/p>\n
Italia<\/p>\n
Austria<\/p>\n
Por k\u00ebto martesa nuk jan\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht m\u00eb t\u00eb shumta se martesat mes njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb komb\u00ebsive t\u00eb tjera. N\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve, ato ndodhin thjesht sepse njer\u00ebzit jetojn\u00eb, punojn\u00eb dhe njihen n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin ambient.<\/p>\n
\u00c7far\u00eb i t\u00ebrheq disa gra t\u00eb huaja?<\/p>\n
Sipas disa studimeve sociologjike dhe intervistave me \u00e7ifte nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare, disa cil\u00ebsi q\u00eb shpesh p\u00ebrmenden jan\u00eb:<\/p>\n
Ndjenja e fort\u00eb e familjes<\/p>\n
Gatishm\u00ebria p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur dhe mb\u00ebshtetur partneren<\/p>\n
Lidhja e fort\u00eb me tradit\u00ebn dhe kultur\u00ebn<\/p>\n
Temperamenti i hapur dhe komunikimi emocional<\/p>\n
Sigurisht, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb perceptime dhe jo rregulla universale.<\/p>\n
A i vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb shqiptar\u00ebt m\u00eb shum\u00eb grat\u00eb e huaja apo shqiptare?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb realitet, shumica e meshkujve shqiptar\u00eb martohen me gra shqiptare, sidomos n\u00eb rajonet ku komuniteti shqiptar \u00ebsht\u00eb i madh.<\/p>\n
Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00eb diaspor\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e zakonshme q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb lidhje me partner\u00eb t\u00eb komb\u00ebsive t\u00eb ndryshme, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb integrimit dhe jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri multikulturore.<\/p>\n
A ndikon tradita shqiptare?<\/p>\n
Tradita shqiptare shpesh thekson rolin e burrit si mbrojt\u00ebs i familjes dhe kujdestar p\u00ebr partneren dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. P\u00ebr disa gra t\u00eb huaja, kjo mund t\u00eb perceptohet si nj\u00eb cil\u00ebsi pozitive dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse.<\/p>\n
Megjithat\u00eb, sociolog\u00ebt theksojn\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet moderne bazohen gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb barazi dhe respekt t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht kultur\u00ebs apo komb\u00ebsis\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Realitet apo mit?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb fund, ideja se \u201cfemrat e huaja i duan shqiptar\u00ebt\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb stereotip i popullarizuar nga rrjetet sociale dhe historit\u00eb personale, sesa nj\u00eb fenomen universal.<\/p>\n
Dashuria dhe t\u00ebrheqja nuk varen vet\u00ebm nga komb\u00ebsia \u2013 ato formohen nga personaliteti, respekti dhe p\u00ebrputhja mes dy njer\u00ebzve, pavar\u00ebsisht se nga vijn\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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